Dating a guy just out of a relationship recmpf online dating
You can tell him what you would and wouldn't be OK with—as in, "I'm fine with taking things slow, but I don't want to see other people" or whatever your bottom line is—and then give him some space to figure out if he wants that too.If he can't date you in a way that makes you happy, you should absolutely cut him loose. Write to [email protected] we'll try to talk it out! Writing in because I'm in a weird dating bind.In my head, this was a guy who was really interested in me and was looking to be something more than casual, but then he brought up the "what are we" issue and it completely threw me for a loop.
The date was actually really great – I was definitely into him and he showed every indication of being into me (the way he looked at me, the things he said, etc.) At one point, he mentioned that he’s really stressed right now because he just broke up with his girlfriend of 10 months a couple weeks ago.
There’s no way to shortcut this for him or for you – he needs to do it himself.
Now, I’m not saying that there’s no way you can start dating him.
It wasn’t like I was sulking in a corner for a year, but I would catch myself 6 months after the breakup thinking about “unfinished business” or “loose ends” that still bothered me.
The bulk of the healing happened within the first month and a half (and probably would have happened quickly if I had just acknowledged that I needed time to work everything out in my head and lifestyle.) My point in all of this is that it’s up to the guy to work his issues out.
You already know what you want, and all you need to do to break your pattern is to walk away from any guy who won't give it to you.